Are you an anchor or a motor?
Posted on 02/05/2010 by Yvonne McCarthy / 5 Comments / Leave a Comment »
“There are two types of people – anchors and motors. You want to lose the anchors and get with the motors because motors are going somewhere and they’re having more fun. The anchors just drag you down” – Wyland – World renowned marine artist
We have these people in our lives that are called dream stealers…they tell you that your dreams and goals are a waste and constantly try to drag you back down to their level. You can easily identify those people with their victim mentality and mediocre standards. They are toxic people and you would be doing yourself a big favor by being totally alone than to expose yourself to these people that suck the life out of you. Surround yourself with winners… with people that believe in you and celebrate your victories.
Drop out of the “ain’t it awful” club. My husband is a radio talk show host and many days he was forced to talk about the “ain’t it awful” stories. Not a great deal of deep, meaningful discussions. Lots of talk about how awful the story was.
We do a good enough job on our own thinking we are going to fail so why do we waste any time with anyone that wants to help us get there? The day I decided to have weight loss surgery was the day I decided that failure was not an option. 30 years of failure but this time failure was NOT AN OPTION.
“Confidence is contagious So is lack of confidence” – Vince Lombardi
Whether it’s certain friends or someone on Facebook or the person on the discussion boards that is a constant stream of negative judgments, criticisms, blaming and complaining. Misery certainly loves company so why would you expose yourself to that mindset? So many of us want to fix those people….I did for a lot of years but I learned my lesson. Instead of hanging with the dream stealers, I want to hang with the winners. Raising the bar is the way to get yourself up out of the mud. There will always be people who find it necessary to say something unkind about someone else in order to make themselves feel more important and it’s even worse when they acquire vulnerable followers and start this mob mentality that grows and grows. Pretty soon the toxicity is infectious. Step away from the toxic people….run away from the anchors. When you hang with the winners you’ll start to think and act like them and your dreams and goals will be celebrated instead of shot down every time you express an opinion.
Will you stumble sometimes? Sure you will. Get back up, try another way, try going over, around or through and if that doesn’t work, you do it again. And when you’re in the midst of trying again, who do you want next to you? An anchor or a motor?
Ladies and gentlemen….start your engines….
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5 Comments on “Are you an anchor or a motor?”
Yvonne – I love this article. It touches me deeply and helps to validate my recent changes in behavior in regards to personal relationships. Thank you so much for all you do for the WLS community!!
How funny that you wrote this, Yvonne, because this is precisely the analogy I’ve been using for the last several months. I have been visualizing a “dredge” — you know, the kind of tool that boats use to stir up the bottom muck and unearth things that have been hidden? That’s how I view negative nabobs: they are bottom dwellers and bottom dredgers. It’s very dark on the bottom, that’s why I prefer to hang around at the top…in the sunshine. But, that’s my choice, and others can do as they wish. Fortunately, I don’t need to sink with them 😉
Love the analogy. There’s a great story near the end of “The dance of wounded souls” that’s a cool analogy too. I really REALLY like yours.
hugs, Y
I really enjoyed this post and SO glad I found you on Facebook!
I am definitely a Motor!!!
LuLu 🙂
So glad you found me too! I uploaded your before and after in the facebook album. You are doing a great job! Hugs, Y